Taunet Nelel means 'New Beginning.' This blog is about finding purpose and living in purpose. It seeks to inspire hope and help you live a fulfilling life. One with "No Regrets, No Fear, No Shame and No Anger."

Born To Exist? Is There More To Life?

Monday, February 27

 “There are two great days in a person's life -- the day we are born and the day we discover why.” William Barclay

Now that you are reading this, which means you are alive, do you know why you were born? Does that question seem obvious to you? If it does, am glad you know. Am glad you won't look back to your life and wonder "What was it all for?"

"So I got the titles, the recognition, the admiration, even have my own fans, a picturesque family - what was it all for? Why did I give my all to nothing but titles and recognition. All my time was spent on making my family comfortable, I didn't want the poverty I grew up in to affect my family. I have all the wealth, you can imagine, all you would ever desire I have. I'd rather die than live another day, I don't know the reason for my existence."
Excerpt adapted from a true story.

The story above just depicts the outcome of not knowing the purpose for one's existence and living to fulfill the purpose. True happiness is never derived from the things that we acquire in our lives.

Most people in the world are walking skeletons, being carried by the wind to whichever direction it blows. If its to the East, let's go, you seem to say. Oh now it's to the West, hurray, at least that is a change. Now it's beginning to get fun. Along the way to the West, even before you've got there, the wind blows again and this time, the North is your destination. Before you even set camp at the North, the East is beckoning again. Wait a minute, you pause, with all the strength you can gather, don't I have a say in all this. However, the more you struggle, the more you lose to the wind, whether you like it or not, the East is the place you will go back to - the wind bellows back. The case of a dog returning to it's own vomit. Remember, the East was not really where you wanted to be in the first place, you just found yourself there, for lack of a better explanation.

Are you a walking skeleton? Do you have a say to where the wind, a metaphor for you're job, family, economy, friends etc. takes you? Are you in charge of your destiny or is your destiny is in charge of you?

“Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice: It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.”
 William Jennings Bryan
So now we know, destiny is not by luck, you have to pursue it intentionally. What is your destiny? Do you have the slightest idea?

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Synonyms of purpose: aim, ambition, aspiration, design, dream, end, idea, ideal, intent, intention, mark, meaning, object, objective, plan, point, goal, target

Why were you born? This is the question we will attempt to answer, everyone on his/ her own. We will answer it by looking at the pitfalls we encounter along the way of discovery.

There is NO reason.

Some of us think there is simply no reason for our existence. That by mere luck your father and mother conceived you into the world and you've been walking the earth since then. That someday, you will die just like the rest of humanity.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:

Let me shock you today, if you subscribe to this school of thought. There is a reason, there is a purpose, the Manufacturer of life had a goal, whether you choose to believe it or not.

In a factory, there is usually so much activity, but the aim is to manufacture as many products as possible. With the use of machines, the work has definitely been reduced. Manufacture requires skill, hard work, patience and persistence. Every product that is manufactured has a form and shape, both of which have to be molded to specific pre-determined requirements; and once these are attained then the finished products are shipped to their destination for consumption.

Let's assume that you enter a supermarket, do you find that most times than not, you have a specific product in mind. Maybe, you were thirsty and just needed a cold drink. There are many drinks on the shelves but you choose just one, if you chose water, there are many different water companies, you still chose one manufacturer's product. Have you ever stopped to think why?

Now let's assume there is a supermarket of life, and you are one of the products 'on sale'.  Why should a 'buyer' come and pick you out of all the other similar products on the shelves? Is there a possibility that no one even looked at you're aisle in such a long time, that the dust is overwhelming. Did the manufacturer make a mistake? Are you the first of the losses the company has had to incur? What are you worth? Did he put such a high price on you that no one is willing to pay the price?

All these questions and more linger in our minds? Most times, our questions are valid. The main question still stands : Do I have a purpose? What is my purpose?

The answer to these questions is as simple as the answer to the question below:

A woman had two sons who were born on the same hour of the same day of the same year. And they were not twins. How is this even possible?

I am not like so-and-so.

We live in a competitive world. You compete with your siblings, you compete with your friends, you compete in education, you compete in the workplace, even after you are married, you compete with your spouse ---we all know competition has not had good results, most of the time.

With your siblings, you've been hurt physically or emotionally or possibly the other way round, as a result your parents gave you thorough beatings or at the very least some scorning. With your friends, some you had to lose along the way. In education, the results may never have reflected the hard work you put in, possibly because some had the answers even before the questions had arrived. In marriage, it's always about who has the last word, and none of you has ever given in to the pressure. At the workplace, who will get that one post, you have to get it - no choice you say, but to compete.

A mistake we always make is to think we don't have a choice.

Whether to compete or not is a choice, and you've already made it even before you enter the ring!

It is all about comparisons: looks, IQ, money, bodily strength e.t.c? The underlying statement in all this competition is:  I am better than so-and-so.

Have you ever thought on a light note, why do you compete with people and not other things - compete with your dog on who has the sharpest teeth; compete with a cheetah, just to know if you are faster; while you are at it please compete with that cake, let's see who is the sweetest of them all. I'd not take these challenges, but please do them. Prove that you are worth it.

We always think we have something to prove, why do we then compete? Let's consider a fight of words. Someone at your workplace, just called you a loser! No reason for the outburst of words. What do you do? How do you react?

Life is like a game of chess, every step determines your fate, which (your fate) will be known at the end of the game, and not the beginning.

I wonder if any factory would make two different products that would compete for the same market. Wouldn't that be a self-defeating process?

Comparisons and competition are as a result of not knowing purpose. I'll dare say, don't compete with anyone but yourself, don't intimidate anyone, don't be intimidated by anyone, you have nothing to prove to anyone, other than yourself!

I'd love to hear your insights, is there more to life?

1 John 3:8 ... The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the devil's work.


Friday, February 17

Where do I begin? Mediocrity is just that mediocrity. Faint, blunt mediocrity!

Definition of  mediocrity : of moderate or low quality, value, ability, or performance
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 There is a choice to make today. A choice that I believe is vital. Similar to internal dialogue.

Are you living a mediocre life? As a child, parent, in work, at church, daily tasks, prayer - life, marriage, friendships, career, citizen of a country, the list goes on....

Will you leave a mark of excellence?

What legacy will you leave?

What will people say on your funeral?

What will you say when you stand before God?

If God were to ask you, "Why did you live a mediocre life?" Will you go into the blame game, like a child caught eating from the sugar dish? Blaming everyone and everything but yourself?

What will God say when it's His turn to speak?

What don't you have that others have?

If your answer will be luck, circumstances, background, talent, religion, education, gender, color, creed, country, personal worth, money --- won't we agree that those are just excuses?

If it had anything to do with money, the rich would not cry or probably be buried with all the money, and they would not bother about charities and giving their riches back to society

What excuse haven't we covered yet? I doubt there is any left!

Matthew 25:29 For everyone who has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken from him.

A Prayer of Humility - I Give Myself Away

Friday, February 10

Oh God, I stand in awe of your glory, grace, mercy and love. Only a piece of the puzzle yet You see me as the full puzzle. You never make mistakes. I have fallen many times, You are still faithful, still willing to hold my hand and show me the way. Never giving up in me. You say You will never leave me nor forsake me. I give myself to You, my past, my present and my future. My dreams, my family, my life take it all. Do as You will LORD. I give up, it's in Your hands. I leave all my worries, all my doubts, all my fears, all my questions at Your feet.

I am tired of being independent when at the end of the day I can't do anything without You. The air I breathe, the health I have You have given me. I am tired of fighting and the war is won. I am tired of being timid when you have said the righteous are as brave as a lion. I am tired of wanting my own way, I leave you to be in control. Have Your way my LORD.

Everyone in my life has a plan, but Your purpose will be accomplished. Everyone has their place in my life. I am tired of judging them. I am not 'all that'. Everyone in my life has something to teach me about myself, yet I am learning about them. I see all the bad things in them yet You want to get the bad things out of me, for me to be a living example. What is the lesson? What do You want to teach me LORD. I am ready to learn.

I am tired of pretending, I am not perfect. Help me be authentic first with myself then I can be authentic with others. No more religion, it's closing my eyes from the big picture. I believe You will finish what You started LORD. Forgive me for my ignorance, my grown-up-ness, my pride, my my my doubts, the gossip, the stabbing, the jealousy, the comparisons, my words, my thoughts, my fears. I am guilty. I receive Your forgiveness. I pray to daily walk with You, to realize that I will fall again and again and You will always be there to help me stand and get me back in my feet. It will never be over until You say its over.

I want to be that little child who trusts that their parents not to let them fall, who doesn't ask questions but waits to be provided for, for doors to be opened, for ways to be made, for protection and a helping hand in times of trouble. I am that little child, trusting fully, not leaning on my understanding. You are God in my life. You are in control. I will be still and know You are LORD.

I will live knowing Your word will not return to You void. It will accomplish what You desire and achieve the purpose for which You sent it. Your ways LORD are higher than my ways, and Your thoughts than my thoughts. I choose today to trust and obey. I believe the blessings in Deuteronomy 28 are Your promise to me.
What prayer are you making today? Remember that God loves and wants the best for you.
Psalms 19:14 Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.

Finding Strength In Weakness

Friday, February 3

In times of despair, hopelessness and obstacles, we constantly have to find strength to overcome the difficulties.

We have to look past the trees to see the sun.
This is an excerpt from a speech that Winston Churchill gave on October 29, 1941, (from http://school-for-champions.com )

"...Never give in. Never give in. Never, never, never, never--in nothing, great or small, large or petty--never give in, except to convictions of honor and good sense. Never yield to force. Never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy."
It is of utmost importance that we remember to never give up, but in the midst of the trouble, in the middle of the fire, how do we find the strength to get through?

We are only human

In weakness, we know that we are human. We are empathetic to those going through similar situations. We understand our vulnerability. We come to the realization that "we are not all that".

We tend to ask questions such as "why did this happen to me?" The best question to ask in any difficulty will not be heading towards self pity but to ask "Why not me?".

Would you want what you're going through on your worst enemy? If yes, you have a long way to go (I think)

Know your true friends

It is in times of sorrow, pain and loss that we get to know our true friends. Who will stick like glue, when you are not really good company? Who will tell you the truth even when it hurts? Who will give you a shoulder to cry on, and not say a word sometimes, just let you talk through the problem to find a lasting solution. 

A man is not an island.

Ultimately, God is the only true friend who sticks closer than a brother, even when all fails, He will never leave us nor forsake us.

Giving is more blessing than receiving

When you feel that you have nothing left to give of yourself, don't stop there. There is still something left in you, even if it's a smile. Share the story, maybe you will be an encouragement to someone. Don't wallow in your own vomit.

I know quite a disgusting thought, but you are more than that failure. Failure is only an incident, a season in passing.

This too shall pass

You have to know that the seasons even in the earth do not last forever. Summer, winter, spring and autumn have their distinct characteristics. That's a story for another day. They all end and give way to the next season.

In the season of weakness, know that strength is waiting to welcome you on the other end of the fire. The scars and blisters are what you acquire from going through the hot coals. Whether or not they'll be the trademark you walk with is a choice only you can make.

The better option is to let the story of your life have a beautiful ending.

On the flip side, there's some good

Weakness brings us to humility. Quite a rare trait, and very important nonetheless. It is when you are at your lowest, you cry for a helping hand. You call out for help, shouting for that push for a better standing.

Let your story give hope for the hopeless and forgiveness to the guilty heart.

Healing after pain.
Forgiveness after hurt and guilt.
No regret, instead gratitude.
No fear, instead inner strength to face more hot coals.
No shame, instead empathy 'n understanding for all those that might be in the same journey.
No anger, because in the end we are all imperfect.
All black sheep.
And God loves us anyway. 

Beauty in imperfection. Strength in weakness.

How do you find the strength to get through tough times? Please feel free to share your insights in the Comments section.

Ecclesiastes 3:1,6, 11 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: ... A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end.

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