Missing Pieces of the Puzzle

Wednesday, June 27

"We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time." T.S. Eliot

Life is a puzzle. A puzzle that seems impossible at the beginning. It seems that the pieces don't quite fit into the whole piece of art. We look for the beautiful picture in life only to see cracks, holes, missing pieces, brokenness and a clear mess of this and that. Desperately we try to make sense of the mess, so we make other messes altogether. We are back to where we began in the puzzle.

We long for things, and feel as if our hearts are tired in the longing. Once we find what we long for the search seems futile. The maze seems bigger, seems like we are lost, there is a looming possibility we couldn't get out of the maze. Desperately we trace our steps to try to make sense of where we would have missed the other path. We are back to where we began in the maze.

Where did we begin?

We began as children, knowing our world way before we made our arrival on earth. We were not innocent, maybe naïve but still knew how to get our way if adults were not watchful. The good thing is we were open to ideas, open to criticism, happy at new discoveries, content in whatever state in life, ready to make messes, looking for solutions, clean them up and make messes again.

Where are we now?

We grew up too fast. We matured into adults. Adults who didn't learn how to think but what to think. We learnt that to have things of our own – we had to do by going to school. We learnt that to be accepted – we had to do by behaving within the societal norms and standards. In order to be artists, masons, doctors, teachers, IT specialists, CEO's – we had to do courses and degrees that probably we didn't like. Our mission in life is now to have, have, have.

We have accumulated information, it is called knowledge, but we like to say we are wise. Imposing this knowledge on our children is what we know best. They need to learn without exploring. They can't make mistakes, they have to avoid them. How else do we think they will survive? Our instincts tell us to avoid mistakes, to stay comfortable, to not ask too many questions. Especially, don't question your life, no, don't question the status quo, don't even question the social ills in society.

If you look for truth, you may find comfort in the end; if you look for comfort you will not get either comfort or truth only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and in the end, despair.” C.S. Lewis

The real answer to the puzzle which is a combination of our beginning and the now lies in three words – be, do, have. These are the missing, maybe even misplaced pieces in the puzzle.

Ephesians 2:10 For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.

BE: We have to understand that everyone is unique, your fingerprints are a clue to that. You were packaged as a gift to this world laden with great potential. You may have tried to repackage yourself growing up. That only made the mess more messier. The solution is unpackage yourself. Open the package. Until you open it, you will remain a good package, collecting dust and nothing to show for it.

What a long time it can take to become the person one has always been.” Palmer Parker

DO: The truth is who you are is God's gift to the world. Once we open the package, we need to share our gifts and talents with those around you. We could stay at the level of having opened the package but if we don't share those gifts, we now become a beautiful gift, with no use to anyone.

If we all did the things we are capable of, we would astound ourselves.” Thomas A. Edison

HAVE: Our packages are open, our gifts and talents are of use to others, we now acquire fulfillment, and our needs are met through our engagement with those around us.

Achievement seems to be connected with action. Successful men and women keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don't quit.” Conrad Hilton


  1. Great thoughts here JepB

    It's true that we often operate out of ignorance and fear. We try to make others what we think they should be, make them act how we think they should act. We have fallen into deep pits of our own and are afraid to let anyone crawl out or walk freely past our little prison.

    But once we are free, then we allow others to have their freedom, to grow and explore and learn.

    Great post

  2. I absolutely love your take home from the post. It is necessary that we "be" then and only then will we be able to allow others to "grow explore and learn." They will no longer be a threat and we won't be fearful. There is security in freedom, both for ourselves and others as well.

    Thank you for sharing Ngina. Let's continue helping those in deep pits of their own.


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